Describe the feelings you felt and if you lost faith in the wait?
Written by Dr. Cassandra Scott on June 16, 2021
Chapter 4 – The Process of Waiting
Workbook – Pondering Questions
Textbook: Created2Produce – Your Turning Point to Destiny by By Dr. Cassandra Scott
Please read the Chapter first and then answer the questions. Post your answers below by the requested due date. Feel free to reply to comments posted by your BYB co-partners and share your thoughts.
Have you ever wanted something and the process took a long time?
Post thoughts you wish to share below. Then move to the next question in this lesson.
Angie Young On February 22, 2022 at 6:08 pm
I felt like I failed myself, my family, and my mentors. It has been a difficult journey.
Gloria Johnson On August 10, 2021 at 7:13 pm
3) Describe the feelings you felt and if you lost faith in the wait?
• I don’t believe I lost faith, because I reminded myself of Phil 4:6-7
• However, I did question the waiting process many times and wondered for a long time when my faith was going to manifest results
Carmen Hebert On July 17, 2021 at 2:00 am
I was an emotional wreck. I could not function properly on my job because of lack of sleep. I lost relationships with family members, lifetime friends, and even my child and grandchildren. They were persuaded that I was the blame when it was clear to everyone that it was him. There were times that I would pack up and leave home for 1-2 weeks at a time just to continue to come with my home situation. I was angry; with him but more so with myself for not paying attention to red flags and putting faith in a man that I had been in a long distance relationship with; even though I had known him for 40 years. I was mentally, physically, and spiritually a wreck. I could not and would not pray for him. I don’t even remember praying for myself except to say “Lord, please get me out of this situation.”. I literally almost lost my mind. I went to practical counseling after marriage counseling was not successful. I wore out those that would listen and it the reason I lost my family and friends; because no one wanted to hear it. They were convinced that I was the problem.
Patricia Grimes Jones On July 16, 2021 at 12:25 pm
Describe the feelings you felt and if you lost faith in the wait? Yes, I lost faith because writing seemed so hard because I was embarrassed because of lack of education so, this brought on fear and being inadequate to in the field with other writers. Who had a big and more propular story.
Victoria Caldwell On July 14, 2021 at 4:02 pm
I felt embarrassed, afraid disappointed about my life. I felt like a failure having to move in with my daughter. I felt hopeless and worried.
Aminah Scott On July 11, 2021 at 6:11 pm
I felt angry. I felt discouraged. I felt like I wasn’t worth being loved, and I felt like God was showing me that I was undeserving. I was disgusted and ashamed of myself. I thought God hated me, so I lost faith.
Dr. Merle Ray On July 13, 2021 at 9:23 am
Amina, great work! Your authenticity and transparency is so beautiful. I pray God’s blessing upon your journey!
Dr. Merle Ray On July 8, 2021 at 5:43 pm
Prayer for The Straight Woman,
The Deserted Wife,
The Real Womanhood Woman
(Based on Isaiah 54; Genesis 20:1–16, Ruth 2)
Some of us want physical children.
Some of us want spiritual.
Some of us don’t want children at all, but we desire family,
And we desire the family to be kept together and not pulled apart.
We desire businesses and enterprises; we desire success.
We desire healthy relationships, and we desire not to be left alone.
Regardless of whether our need is physical, mental, emotional or spiritual, we all have needs.
Needs that are promising; Needs that are left unfulfilled.
There are those who promised us hope, loyalty, blessing, and un-denial.
But for whatever reason, we were dealt with harshly.
Gifted with grief and loss instead of abundance and flourishing.
God has come to say today as the kinsman redeemer, Boaz,
Who made both Ruth and Naomi kept women,
The Lord says that we are kept women even now.
“For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth is he called.” Isaiah 54:5
His way is straight, and He has called us to be straight.
I love how in the book of Ruth, the redeemer kinsman, Boaz, tells Ruth, what our Lord God is saying to us even today:
“My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with my servant girls. Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the girls.
I have told the men not to touch you.” Ruth 2:8
You see, some of us wonder why we can’t get a date.
We wonder, Why we can’t get a break?
Why don’t we have a man?
Why don’t we have a husband?
Stop that. Stop the torture. Stop the drama, Queen.
Your Father knows what things ye have need of.
He also knows what’s out there.
Some of us, if we were touched right now, we’d be worse off.
You see, we are already chosen, and we need to know and understand what that means.
When one is already chosen, you are rubbed, smeared with holy oil and sweet-smelling spices.
First to be who you are. Then to do what you are born to do.
When you are already somebody’s wife, then you are much better off not being touched by someone else.
I remember in Genesis 20 where Abraham, the Father of our Faith, was struggling at one time with who God called him to be. He was on a journey of being transformed into the man that God called him to be – not quite there yet, but was on his way. Along the road, Abraham became afraid for his life, and he told his wife, Sarah, “When we get where we’re going, tell the men that you are my sister, not my wife.”
You see, like so many of our men today,
Abraham was willing to sacrifice both his sister and his wife,
Even though he was called to be the Father of faith.
Don’t judge them; it’s a process!
But God’s view of Sarah was higher than Abraham’s.
God stepped in right in the nick of the time.
He told the one who was about to touch Sarah,
“If you touch her, consider yourself a dead man.”
That’s how God thinks about YOU too!
God told the man who was about to touch and put his hands on Sarah,
“She is a man’s wife.
She is a Baal’s baal.
She is a god’s god.”
That’s how God sees you. You see, God’s not willing to sacrifice any of us.
Think about it and you’ll quit your crying. You’ll dry your eyes. You’ll hold your head up and live – Fabulous!
You see some – if not all – of us have already been touched – by those who were not pleasing.
They touched us in ways that were not pleasing to God.
While we were already chosen by Him – and because of that, we are still hurting today;
Although we are saved, and on our way to heaven,
We are still hurting and not fully aware of the scope of our salvation –
We are still learning what it means to fully live and to live free!
Some of us have suffered from the sin of: abuse, shame, improper self-esteem, condemnation, neglect, abandonment, and rejection. Let’s be honest. It exists because – many guys out there –
They just aren’t ready.
They’re not ready for purpose.
They’re not ready for truth.
They are not ready to love.
Some of them had fathers who were not ready.
Others had mothers who ruined them.
They have not been taught how to love a real woman.
But all is not lost! Put your hope in God, your kinsman redeemer, He is ready.
He knows how to set the record straight. God knows what you need!
I love how Boaz, – the kinsman redeemer goes on to say, “Whenever you are thirsty,…”
You see, we think that the Lord doesn’t know anything about when we are thirsty.
We think that God doesn’t know anything about quenching our thirst.
We don’t think he knows how to heal our passions and fulfill our needs.
But He says:
“Whenever you go thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars!
From the water jars the men have filled.” Ruth 2:8-9
You see, Jesus, our kinsman redeemer, gives living water!
It is because God, your Father, knows what we need.
And He is – even today pouring out living water! Unlike the men in our lives, God is still not compromising. God has reserved for Himself, a remnant of men and women who are seeking to be filled from the pouring out, pouring out, pouring out –
Of Living Water for us to drink.
Listen, listen, listen Ladies young and old, married or lonely, single or separated,
Listen as I paraphrase what the kinsman redeemer says to Ruth,
What the Spirit of God is saying to you:
“I’ve been told all about what you have done,…how you took better care of your mother-in-law than her own son, how you left your father and your mother and your family home and came to live with a people you did not know,…just trying to be your authentic self, live out your identity as a woman, your identity as a daughter of God.”
“May the Lord repay you for what you have done,…for the choices you make every day to seek out your life as a creation of the Almighty God, as a woman, to be loved and to be cherished in the glory of God. You didn’t choose another way to live. You didn’t choose the lie that abuse, neglect, rejection, and condemnation was telling you. You didn’t choose the lie that God made you that way.
May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, God, under whose wings you have taken refuge.
May you find favor. May you find favor. May you find favor in His eyes.
May you be given comfort and spoken kindly to.
May you be made full by the kinsman redeemer.
May you have true friends who will look out for you and wisdom and strength to look after yourself.
May you have all that you need for life and godliness, peace and joy.
May God’s truth, love, wisdom, and protection overshadow you.
When you choose a mate and when a mate chooses you,
May he have the spirit of Boaz, the kinsman redeemer.
May you not run after the rich or the poor; but delight yourself in the spirit of the kinsman redeemer.
May the loving pure heart of the kinsman redeemer overshadow you with his attention, overshadow you with his kindness, overshadow you with his love, his protection, his presence, his prosperity,
And with his legacy,
And may YOU become the envy of all in Jesus’s Mighty Name!
Tera Alexander On July 10, 2021 at 1:38 am
This is powerful
Tera Alexander On July 6, 2021 at 10:15 pm
The feelings were crushing, couldn”t understand here I am married to a man with no kids and I can’t give him one. It had at one point gotten so bad I was angry and didn’t want to be around babies. I was hurt and just couldn’t understand why I could not have a baby. I have heard doctors say you need to loose some weight and maybe you can car a baby, I had the one doctor I saw on my last miscarriage not empathy at all. I was at the edge of loosing Faith until I met Pastor C and she prayed and laid hands on me and prophetsized that we would conceive and I felt the Holy Spirit like never before and that restored my Faith because I believed it would happen.
Lisa Weatherspoon On July 6, 2021 at 10:05 pm
I remember it like it was yesterday. Feeling angry, embarrassed, shameful, and confused all at the same time. Wondering what was I doing wrong, what was wrong with me. I watched my peers get promoted before me, Soldiers I taught in Advanced Individual Training (AIT) and those I supervised and mentored in the clinics surpass me in rank. I felt like a failure and inadequate. nI experienced similar feelings as I waited, am waiting on my husband. Always a bridesmaid, never a bride. Five times to be exact. Being told told, you are a good woman, a good friend, but I guess never good enough to be a wife.